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Reasons That Your Teen May Seek Out Online Pornography

Pedro Carr

You shouldn't be surprised if you have a teenage boy who views online pornography. The online pervasiveness of this content means that it's relatively easy for internet users to stumble upon pornography or seek it out. You shouldn't automatically be concerned if you discover this online activity. However, you might feel concerned if the teen appears to be viewing this content with considerable frequency or if he is viewing adult content that appears to be highly questionable. In these cases, some sessions with a therapist may be in your teen's best interest. There are many reasons that teenage boys may seek out online pornography, including the following.

Trying To Learn About Sexuality

Although most boys in today's society know about sex by the time they reach their teens, the reality is that many of these youths don't know much beyond the basics. Many schools teach sex education, while others rely on parents to bring this awareness to their children. You and your spouse may not be keen on talking about sex with your son, and this may compel him to look for answers online. Although it's difficult, you should try to initiate some frank discussions about sex with your son when it's clear he is curious about this topic.

Exploring His Sexuality

Some teenagers aren't sure about their sexuality. For example, while much of society may encourage teens to be heterosexual, the reality is that your teen may be wrestling with thoughts of homosexuality. The teen may accept that he is homosexual or try to avoid feeling these urges — either way, he may turn to online pornography to address the situation. For example, if a teen feels homosexual urges but doesn't want to accept them, he may view images of nude women online in an attempt to "trick" himself into feeling as though he is heterosexual.

Potential Of Abuse

Unfortunately, some adolescents who were sexually abused as children may turn to online pornography — perhaps in an attempt to feel more in control of the sexuality that they may have been abused earlier in life. Child sexual abuse victims may have a long list of issues around sexuality, and this may cause them to fixate on sexual behavior in a number of ways, including watching it online. Given this potential cause, you want to be extremely gentle about discussing this topic with your teen. If you're concerned about your teen's use of online pornography, it's a good idea to schedule him to meet with a children's therapy counselor who specializes in this area.