dealing with the grief of loss
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dealing with the grief of loss

When you lose someone that is close to you, getting past the grief can be difficult and can take a very long time. So, how to you get past that grief without it consuming you? When I lost my husband to a car accident, I struggled for months trying to find my footing. I missed a lot of work, couldn't pay my bills and had a difficult time getting out of bed each morning. That was until I began going to grief counseling. This was one thing that I never thought that I would do, but it has helped me in so many ways. To learn about some of the tools that I have been using to get past this difficult time, visit my website.


dealing with the grief of loss

Can Long-Distance Relationships Ever Work Out?

Pedro Carr

Everyone knows long-distance relationships are doomed to fail, right? That common perception actually doesn't jibe with reality. While more than 56 percent of people believe that long-distance relationships aren't as happy, satisfying, or enduring as close-distance ones, reality paints a different picture, according to a study in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy. Here are some tips for nurturing a successful long-distance relationship.

1. Keep a positive attitude. If you view your long-distance relationship as a painful thing to live with, you're tilting its odds of success against you. Couples with positive attitudes toward long-distance relationships fare the best. Focus on the good things that you're grateful for in life. Of course, having trust and feeling secure in the relationship go a long way toward helping you feel alright with the distance between you and your loved one.

2. Beware of threatening situations. You can help your partner feel more secure and confident in the relationship by not pushing the limits of their trust. Going out boozing at a club without your partner could understandably make them worry. If you know it will bother them, either don't engage in the behavior or make sure you're upfront and reassuring with them about it beforehand. It may help to remember that even though your partner isn't there with you, you don't have to act like you're single.

3. Share long-distance activities. You can feel closer to your partner even when you're far apart if you take part in activities together, like reading the same book or watching the same TV shows. This will give you more things to talk about and can create a feeling of closeness. Some long-distance couples watch shows at the same time even when they're apart to gain a sense of togetherness. Consider sending your loved one a letter or gift in the mail to let them know you're thinking of them.

4. Keep communication open. This is important in any relationship, but it's vital to the success of a long-distance relationship that the two of you are on the same page. Do you both have the same goals in mind concerning your relationship? Is there a plan for shifting out of long-distance mode? Uncertainty can end a long-distance relationship because it's not as easy to receive timely reassurances as in a conventional close-distance relationship.

If you stay upbeat, enhance feelings of security and certainty, and keep communication strong, your long-distance relationship can be a satisfying and successful one. For more information about having a successful long-term relationship, you could individually talk to a couples' therapist or virtually attend couples' counseling together.